[わがみをつねってひとのいたさをしれ, wagamiwotsunettehitonoitasawoshire](exp) (id) you can't appreciate others' suffering until you've gone through it yourself; pinch oneself and know others' pain[Add to Longdo]
[しぶかわがむける, shibukawagamukeru](v1, vi) (a woman) to lose her roughness and become urbane and good-looking; to become experienced in worldly affairs[Add to Longdo]